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Long Days

Well, been working a bit more than usual, but getting used to it. Which would probably make it more like “Been working like normal.” Hm

In far more interesting news than work (which is interesting to me, but really, not for anyone else), Frank and I started the Love & Respect series with our small group. I highly recommend the series for anyone who is even considering one day possibly maybe getting marriage. I think that it not only helps with marriage/dating, but it also helps explain men and women in ways I hadn’t thought about before. The key learning from the first session was that guys and girls see the world through different lenses (duh), but the new piece of information is that men want to be respected and women want to be loved. So basically, a guy is hurt by disrespectful things (ie. encroaching upon their physical/emotional space uninvited) and women is hurt by unloving things (ie. being unappreciated, etc). Respect is a guy’s oxygen while love is a woman’s oxygen and when either messes with the other’s oxygen, fireworks explode.

The really interesting thing about this was how often women respond to unloving overatures in a way that offends the man’s need for respect, so he responds to that offense in a way that seems unloving to the woman, thus a vicious cycle is born. I have seen this at work, and I never understood all the elements of it. Now that I heard this talk, it has made me really aware of that crazy cycle (crazy being any action that is repeated with consistent ill-effects). It also made me want to better understand ways that I can show Frank that I respect him. He is so good about showing me ways that he loves me and I never considered that his “oxygen” might be so different from mine.

I can’t wait for the next session!! 🙂

Aside from that – Frank is attending a Lock-In with the High School Ministry at Church on Friday night and Saturday we’ve got nuttin’.

Hope everyone has a great week!!

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Long Days

Well, been working a bit more than usual, but getting used to it. Which would probably make it more like “Been working like normal.” Hm

In far more interesting news than work (which is interesting to me, but really, not for anyone else), Frank and I started the Love & Respect series with our small group. I highly recommend the series for anyone who is even considering one day possibly maybe getting marriage. I think that it not only helps with marriage/dating, but it also helps explain men and women in ways I hadn’t thought about before. The key learning from the first session was that guys and girls see the world through different lenses (duh), but the new piece of information is that men want to be respected and women want to be loved. So basically, a guy is hurt by disrespectful things (ie. encroaching upon their physical/emotional space uninvited) and women is hurt by unloving things (ie. being unappreciated, etc). Respect is a guy’s oxygen while love is a woman’s oxygen and when either messes with the other’s oxygen, fireworks explode.

The really interesting thing about this was how often women respond to unloving overatures in a way that offends the man’s need for respect, so he responds to that offense in a way that seems unloving to the woman, thus a vicious cycle is born. I have seen this at work, and I never understood all the elements of it. Now that I heard this talk, it has made me really aware of that crazy cycle (crazy being any action that is repeated with consistent ill-effects). It also made me want to better understand ways that I can show Frank that I respect him. He is so good about showing me ways that he loves me and I never considered that his “oxygen” might be so different from mine.

I can’t wait for the next session!! 🙂

Aside from that – Frank is attending a Lock-In with the High School Ministry at Church on Friday night and Saturday we’ve got nuttin’.

Hope everyone has a great week!!

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Yes, that’s right folks – FK! and I are going to see U2 on 9/25!!!!! Sooooo excited! Of all the musical groups I have ever wanted to see, this one tops the list! We are calling this our anniversary present to eachother. The downside to this is that we each went to different locations to buy tickets and the unfortunate thing is, they don’t let you use your cell phones when you are in line. The result is: Frank and I bought a total of 8 tickets. YIKES! We already have a few people that want them, but financing them on the good ole credit cards is not a fun time, that’s for sure!

Anyway – that’s that. Frank is flying tonight, so I’m going down to Chicago to hang out with Meg & Ann and to possibly go to a fundraiser. Monday we are doing the stations of the cross with church. Busy week ahead of us, for sure!

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Yes, that’s right folks – FK! and I are going to see U2 on 9/25!!!!! Sooooo excited! Of all the musical groups I have ever wanted to see, this one tops the list! We are calling this our anniversary present to eachother. The downside to this is that we each went to different locations to buy tickets and the unfortunate thing is, they don’t let you use your cell phones when you are in line. The result is: Frank and I bought a total of 8 tickets. YIKES! We already have a few people that want them, but financing them on the good ole credit cards is not a fun time, that’s for sure!

Anyway – that’s that. Frank is flying tonight, so I’m going down to Chicago to hang out with Meg & Ann and to possibly go to a fundraiser. Monday we are doing the stations of the cross with church. Busy week ahead of us, for sure!

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Well, it’s official, FK and I are members of the YMCA. Yahoo! We joined this afternoon to enjoy the benefits of personal trainers, free classes, an indoor track, whirlpool, an amazing weight system and Tony, the man that took us on a tour. Tony, stud that he is, was a long haired, buff wee-man that enjoys long walks on the beach, poetry and step-classes. I don’t think he was interested in FK, per se, but he was a little more high maintenance than most of my girlfriends.

What we really liked about the Y was the “big brother is watching you” mentality. Tony made a point out of how they keep track of when you have been to the gym through computer systems, as well as help you track your workouts. As we were touring the facility, one of the regulars came up to Tony to let him know she would be out the next week on vacation, so he didn’t need call to see where she was. Either there is some sort of inappropriate relationship going on there or they realllllly keep tabs on the members. I don’t doubt that they would actually call if you were MIA for a few days. Knowing FK and myself, this is actually a benefit. As a matter of fact, if they wouldn’t mind just sending over their friend Larry to casually remind us (while wielding nun chucks), that we should be at the gym – that would be great.

Actually, what was slightly disconcerting was a) the lack of wheat grass (as I am sure you are aware by now, I think wheat grass shots are the only way to go) and b) the fact that there was a woman carrying left over pizza through the gym. She walked right by the indoor track with that pizza. It just didn’t seem right – although I can’t put my finger on it. I mean, I guess it could have been worse – she could have been carrying an empty pizza box…

Last, but not least, I would like to extend my warmest wishes to the UWM Panthers. I didn’t realize we lived in such an athletic powerhouse state (you know, what with the Milwaukee Admirals and the Bucks and stuff…)

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PFM

So today is beautiful. The sun is out, the snow is melting, the world is crawling out of the rock we have been hiding under for the past 4 months – it is magical. PFM, as Frank would say – Pure Freakin’ Magic.

Lots of stuff has been going on at work, keepin’ me busy. Don’t really want to get into it – it’s only interesting to me which means it will undoubtedly put anyone who reads my blog sound asleep. Friday night it was Sarah & Dan’s anniversary (one year, hoorah!). Dan made a surprise dinner for Sarah at our apartment and she waas definitely surprised. Congrats to them!

While they were wining and dining, FK and I went to Swig for happy hour (not so happy – 1 glass of wine, 1 beer = $11… hmmm). Then we went to Mayfair to go see a movie, but once we got into the theater, decided we were tired and it was time to call it a night.

Yesterday we slept in (FK was on reserve, yahoo) and went for a walk, went back to Mayfair to see if we could get a new phone plan — no dice, FK doesn’t want to trade in his super cool phone for a subpar phone, even though the service would be slightly better. Then my parents came up for Church and Dinner. Yum. Went to Trocadero – highly recommend it – very tastey.

This morning we dozed until 8:30 and then got a move on. Picked up Kupers at the airport and went for a walk along the lakefront. Stopped in at Starbucks and then took Kupers back to the airport so he could finish up his flights for the day. Found out FK has a standup tonight, so I’ll be flyin’ solo for the evening. 🙂 S’okay.

Anyway, gotta get my hairs cut – write more later. .. hopefully… 🙂

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